About Me

Dr. Patti Ashley LPC, has integrated 40 years of experience in special education, child development, and psychology into her wholehearted work as a psychotherapist, author, international speaker, and authenticity architect coach. She brings unique insights into the identification and treatment of shame, trauma, grief and dysfunctional family patterns.

Dr. Ashley owns and operates Authenticity Architects in Boulder, Colorado. Her inimitable Authenticity Architecture model facilitates long-term changes in the brain and nervous system, helping clients break through unconscious barriers and rediscover a sense of self-love, belonging, and connection.

As a licensed professional counselor since 2000, Dr. Ashley has counseled a myriad of individuals, couples, families and groups in mental health agencies, psychiatric hospitals, and private practice settings. She also has many years of experience developing continuing education courses for physicians, hospital wellness programs, universities and other organizations.

Patti holds a Doctor of Philosophy Degree in psychology from the Union Institute and University, a Master of Education Degree in early childhood from Old Dominion University, and a Bachelor of Science Degree in special education from James Madison University. She is the author of Living in the Shadow of the Too-Good Mother Archetype (2014), Letters to Freedom (2019), and Shame-Informed Therapy: Treatment Strategies to Overcome Core Shame and Reconstruct the Authentic Self (2020). 

Being a mother of four thirty-something children, and a grandmother to three beautiful little humans has taught Patti many things about relationships and our emotional self. Drs. Margaret and Jordan Paul sum it up:

“Children are our Divine Teachers. When we fail to see their light, it is our vision that needs clearing.”


  • Union Institute and University, Cincinnati, Ohio: PhD in Psychology; November 2002
  • Old Dominion University, Norfolk, Virginia; MS in Early Childhood Education; August 1991
  • James Madison University, Harrisonburg, Virginia; BS in Special Education; May 1981

License & Certifications

  • Licensed Professional Counselor; Colorado, 2000
  • Certified Teacher, Special Education and Early Childhood Education; CO, 2000
  • Certified Teacher, Special Education and Early Childhood Education; VA, 1981
  • Certified MARI Practitioner, 1996
  • Shame-Informed Treatment Certification, 2020

Representative presentations include, but are not limited to:

Appomattox Elementary School, Spring 1983, “Behavior Management in the Classroom”

King’s Grant Presbyterian Church, May 1991, “A Mother’s Day Today”

Hampton Elementary School, September 1991, “Children and Stress”

The Beach Day School, February 1993, “Discipline in the 90s”

Virginia Head Start Association Conference, March 1993, “Positive Parenting”

The Chesapeake Mothers’ Center, September 1993, “Positive Discipline”

The CHADD Organization, October 1993, “Behavior Management and ADHD”

Bellamy Manor Preschool, March 1994, “Children Learn What WE Live”

The Newport News Recreation Center, May 1995, “Positive Discipline”

The Mom’s Group of Kempsville, May 1996, “Sensitive Discipline”

The Fellowship Center, May 1997, “The Heart of the Mother”

Christopher Farms Elementary School, February 1998, “Self-Esteem and Children”

Virginia Beach Public Schools, March-May 1998, “Guiding Children, Freeing Spirits”

The MOMS group, April 1998, “How to Discipline Without Breaking the Spirit”

Boulder, Colorado, April 2005, “Perfect Moms Get Real”

MOPS Group, September 2005 “New Millennium Moms”

Broomfield/Boulder, Colorado, April/November 2006 & 2007 “New Millennium Moms-Mothering Beyond Image”

Boulder, Colorado, May and November 2006 & 2007, “Circles of Self: Introduction to the Mandala”

Boulder, Colorado, August 2007: “Exploring Dreams” with Billie Ortiz

Platt Middle School, October 2007—“Bullying and Cliques”

Boulder Psychological Services, September 2008—“Parenting Middle School Age Children”

Boulder Psychological Services, October 2009-“The Magic of Mentoring”

Boulder, CO, July 2011 & March 2012-“Mothering Beyond Image”

Boulder Institute of Psychotherapy Research, July 2014- “Raising Souls, Not Soldiers.”

CWWN Meeting, Boulder, CO August 2014–#DoingItAll

Boulder County Day School, Boulder, CO March 2015–“When Good Enough Isn’t Enough”

Boulder Quaker Friends Meeting, Boulder, CO August 2015–“There Art of Sensitive Discipline”

PESI Seminars, NJ, OH, PA, AZ, CA, CT, RI, NY, CO, WA~ August 2017–October 2019–“Toxic Shame in Clinical Practice”

Sandstone Cares, Denver, CO, September 2018–“Toxic Shame in Clinical Practice”

Featured Journalist –Authored articles for The Hampton Roads Shopper special section entitled “For the Love of Children;” the Children’s Hospital of the King’s Daughters Newsletter and The Foster Parenting Newsletter. Featured journalist for The Museum of Motherhood; The Women’s Network; The Shriver Report; Good Enough Mother; Left Hand Valley Courier and Happy Parenting.

Some representative titles include, but are not limited to:

Is It Dangerous, Destructive or Rude?: Managing Problem Behavior

The “Terribly Terrific” Two Year Old; Attention Deficit Disorder

A Daughter’s Gift; New Year of Choices

Coping with the Reality of Fantasy

One School, Two Houses; The Cycle of Life-Death- Life

Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child? Why This Isn’t True

The Importance of Feelings

Take Time For Yourself

A Mother’s Day Today

Nourishing Self-Esteem; One Special Teacher

Ask a Simple Question, Get Many Different Answers

Start the School Year with Structure and Routine
















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Niwot, CO 80503

(720) 565-3388

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