I know how hard this wild ride we call life can be sometimes, and I want to help you get through whatever struggles you might be having. Losing my father at a young age and having gone through divorce/custody battles, moves, and many life changes/traumas, has given me big empathy. Telling your stories to someone who really listens can help you transform lead into gold, and bring more clarity to your authentic self.

After 35+ years of working with individuals, couples and families struggling with life’s challenges, I have created a unique psychotherapy/coaching method called Authenticity Architecture. 

If you are feeling anxiousstressed, overwhelmed, depressed, hopeless, helpless, and/or sad, I am here to help you find your joy again. If you are grieving the loss of someone or something you love, I can help you navigate that painful task. If you are a mother who is feeling overwhelmed with the multitude of tasks and responsibilities, I can help you learn how to better mother yourself and your child(ren). If you are feeling “stuck” and want to change your all too familar story, Authenticity Architecture can help you find your true meaning and purpose.

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“Thank you for showing me that I don’t have to live life stressed and pleasing people, and that I can do what I want with my life and it’s okay. Stopping the impossible people pleasing cycle and saying ‘you are exactly where you need to be’ and giving myself a lot of grace. I am a much stronger woman because of you.” Kate, photographer and mother of two elementary age children

“It’s not overkill to say: I would not be where I am today without you. You encouraged me not to settle for a job that I didn’t really want, and instead just do what I love! Freeing myself to just be an activist and trust in the universe was all your influence, and I am deeply grateful. You taught me how to hold some badass boundaries. People expect women to say ‘yes’ even when we want to say ‘no’, because we always have. Not on Patti’s watch!” Rachel, attorney and mother of three teenagers

Letters to Freedom: From Fear to Love to Grace

Losing the mid-life man of my dreams–Laurence Freedom–the same way I lost my father as a child inspired me to write this very personal memoir. I hope it helps anyone who has to endure the painful passage of losing a loved one.

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“This memoir is unusually powerful. Even if you didn’t know Laurence, his journey will not only inspire you: it has the capacity to impel you, accelerating you on your path of unfoldment.” Dr. Roger Teal, Author of This Life is Joy

“Patti shares her raw journey through love and grief in a way that only a true spiritual seeker can do. Her blend of psychology and spirituality makes this book a resource for anyone finding their way through loss and heartbreak.” Sue Frederick, Author of Bridges to Heaven

“Her writing is beautiful, and the style is reminiscent of Jeanette Walls.” Dr. Marcy Cooper, MD, Child Psychiatrist

“A love story that makes your heart sing while also feeling the insufferable pain of loss. Her honesty and courageous willingness to share raw, uncensored emotions while grieving has created this remarkable tribute to the human spirit.” Donna V. Remmert, Author of The Littlest Big Kid, The Jitterbug Girl, & Head Over Heals

Living in the Shadow of the Too-Good Mother Archetype

This book is personal, as well as professional. In my doctoral research I wanted to uncover why mothers so often feel they are falling short of expectations. A familiar story for me as well as thousands of other mothers I have met through the years. This book shines a light on what has been hidden in the shadows for way too long, dispelling the myths of being a perfect parent.

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“As I read through your thoughtful and compassionate book, I think to myself how special it is that you are able to make the profoundly essential points that parenting is an ongoing process of discovery and acceptance of our true selves, balance, and mindfulness. What I also find remarkable is the deftness with which you connect historical, mythological, psychological, educational, and political contexts for LIVING in the Shadow of the TOO GOOD MOTHER. I look forward to recommending it to colleagues and friends alike.” Dale V. Atkins, PhD, Psychologist & Contributor to The Today Show and CNN

“Most of us know by now that ‘the way we were’ as mothers is not the way we want to be anymore.  Patti Ashley, a wise and thoughtful guide, reveals why martyred motherhood isn’t healthy for women or children and offers stories that illuminate where to go from here.” Mary Kay Blakely, Author of American Mom–Motherhood, Politics and Humble Pie

“As a mother of 4 and psychologist working with many mothers living in the shadow, your book is relevant and timely. I’m confident it will resonate with countless mothers as it has resonated with me.  It is time to promote dialogue into the “too-good” mother archetype without fear of judgment or shame. Thank you for writing this book.”  Rose Moten, PhD, Psychologist

Upcoming Events:

Saturday, March 21, 2020, 10:00 am – 4:00 pm MST ~ Embracing Paradox (co-facilitated with Billie Ortiz, Dream Expert) A workshop designed to help you embrace the push and pull of everyday life! Make your own paradox box and work with the archetypes from the Story of the Maiden King. REGISTER HERE

Sunday, May 3, 2020, 9:00 am MST ~ Moms in Real Life Sunday Brunch: Let’s talk about being a mom together–the joys and the challenges. Bring your favorite coffee cup and Sunday morning treat and we’ll share a little honest mom-to-mom conversation. On-line webinar (co-facilitated with Elizabeth Herman, school psychologist & my incredible daughter!!)

Friday, May 8, 2020 6:30 am- 9:30 pm & Saturday May 9, 2020 9:30 am- 4:30 pm MST The Niwot Inn, Niwot Colorado ~ Moms in Real Life Weekend Retreat: Get away for the weekend and stay at the lovely Niwot Inn, or commute Friday and Saturday for a rejuvenating and uplifting journey into what it is like to be a mom today. Meet other moms and share stories and learn about the 6 themes in my book Living in the Shadow of the Too-Good Mother Archetype.

Saturday, June 20, 2020 9:00 am MST On-line webinar Fatherless Daughters Brunch ~ Let’s talk about being without a dad at any stage of your life. Bring you favorite coffee cup and Sunday morning treat and we’ll share a little honest conversation.

July 24-31, 2020 ~ A Sacred Journey in the South of France (Co-facilitated with Kelly Sullivan Walden & Elizabeth Herman)

More Information on Trainings and Events Page

Dr. Patti Ashley ~ Authenticity Architecture

Colorado and Company Interview

Author Patti Ashley – February 14, 2020

Finding Clarity Through Grief with Dr. Patti Ashley and Luke Iorio

KGNU Interview, October 7, 2019

Money For Lunch Interview, February 23, 2020
Patti Ashley – Why Do People Grieve When A Celebrity, Someone They’ve Never Met, Dies?

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