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Join me this Saturday with 24 new thought leaders including Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Joan Borysenko and others talking about mental health during this pandemic. MAY 9 FROM 4-9 PM MDT. Register Here

We are all adjusting the Coronavirus and the many ways lives are being affected. I created a FREE on-line course Go In, Not Out: Finding Deeper Parts of Yourself in the COVID 19 Pandemic to help you find yourself in the midst of the chaos. You can do it at your own pace. And on Mother’s Day I will be launching a course for mothers called: Moms In Real Life: Before, during and After COVID 19 with my daughter Elizabeth Ashley-Herman. Honest conversation and tips on mothering in the world today. And, stay tuned for June for my course: Transforming Grief and Fear into Love and Grace. Check out all the Authenticity Architects learning courses here.

Join my facebook group Authenticity Architects. Every Friday at 11:00 am MDT be part of the conversations about all my on-line courses.

I know how hard this wild ride we call life can be sometimes, and I want to help you get through whatever struggles you might be having. Losing my father at a young age and having gone through divorce/custody battles, moves, and many life changes/traumas, has given me big empathy. Telling your stories to someone who really listens can help you transform lead into gold, and bring more clarity to your authentic self. After 35+ years of working with individuals, couples and families struggling with life’s challenges, I have created a unique psychotherapy/coaching method called Authenticity Architecture. 

If you are feeling anxious, stressed, overwhelmed, depressed, hopeless, helpless, and/or sad, I am here to help you find your joy again. If you are grieving the loss of someone or something you love, I can help you navigate that painful task. If you are a mother who is feeling overwhelmed with the multitude of tasks and responsibilities, I can help you learn how to better mother yourself and your child(ren). If you are feeling “stuck” and want to change your all too familar story, Authenticity Architecture can help you find your true meaning and purpose.

Schedule an in-office or on-line 50 minute session HERE

“Thank you for showing me that I don’t have to live life stressed and pleasing people, and that I can do what I want with my life and it’s okay. Stopping the impossible people pleasing cycle and saying ‘you are exactly where you need to be’ and giving myself a lot of grace. I am a much stronger woman because of you.” Kate, photographer and mother

“It’s not overkill to say: I would not be where I am today without you. You encouraged me not to settle for a job that I didn’t really want, and instead just do what I love! Freeing myself to just be an activist and trust in the universe was all your influence, and I am deeply grateful. You taught me how to hold some badass boundaries. People expect women to say ‘yes’ even when we want to say ‘no’, because we always have. Not on Patti’s watch!” Rachel, attorney and mother

Letters to Freedom: From Fear to Love to Grace

Losing the mid-life man of my dreams–Laurence Freedom–the same way I lost my father as a child inspired me to write this very personal memoir. I hope it helps anyone who has to endure the painful passage of losing a loved one.

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“This memoir is unusually powerful. Even if you didn’t know Laurence, his journey will not only inspire you: it has the capacity to impel you, accelerating you on your path of unfoldment.” Dr. Roger Teal, Author of This Life is Joy

“Patti shares her raw journey through love and grief in a way that only a true spiritual seeker can do. Her blend of psychology and spirituality makes this book a resource for anyone finding their way through loss and heartbreak.” Sue Frederick, Author of Bridges to Heaven

Living in the Shadow of the Too-Good Mother Archetype

In my doctoral research I wanted to uncover why mothers so often feel they are falling short of expectations. A familiar story for me as well as thousands of other mothers I have met through the years. This book shines a light on what has been hidden in the shadows for way too long, dispelling the myths of being a perfect parent.

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“As I read through your thoughtful and compassionate book, I think to myself how special it is that you are able to make the profoundly essential points that parenting is an ongoing process of discovery and acceptance of our true selves, balance, and mindfulness. What I also find remarkable is the deftness with which you connect historical, mythological, psychological, educational, and political contexts for LIVING in the Shadow of the TOO GOOD MOTHER. I look forward to recommending it to colleagues and friends alike.” Dale V. Atkins, PhD, Psychologist & Contributor to The Today Show and CNN

“Patti Ashley, a wise and thoughtful guide, reveals why martyred motherhood isn’t healthy for women or children and offers stories that illuminate where to go from here.” Mary Kay Blakely, Author of American Mom–Motherhood, Politics and Humble Pie