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Sign up here NOW to get some early free gifts and to learn more about the Fear to Love to Grace Summit  and the virtual launch party on February 4, 2020 for my memoir: Letters to Freedom: From Fear to Love to Grace.

I am grateful to be able to help people learn how to live their best life. The experiences I have had in my life of love and loss and grace have taught me many things, and I love sharing the insights I have learned from them with you through my work as an author, psychotherapist, speaker, and authenticity architect.

I’d love to help you step more fully into your authentic life.

If you are grieving the loss of someone or something you love, I can help you find healing and navigate the arduous task of grief.

If you are a mother, I can help you better learn how to mother yourself and your child(ren).

And…if you are feeling stressed or sad, I can help you to uncover the many layers of not feeling good-enough, and discover a more genuine experience of self-compassion and joy.

After 35+ years of working with individuals, couples and families who are struggling with life’s challenges, I have found that the true goal lies in finding the hidden treasure deep inside yourself. Your light may feel like it has gone out, but there is always an ember burning underneath, longing to be reignited. In order to do this, I have created a unique psychotherapy approach that I call Authenticity Architecture, designed to help you thrive, not merely survive, and LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!

Contact me today to start your journey of reconstructing your authentic self.



or call 720-565-3388 or e-mail pattiashley@icloud.com


“Thank you for showing me that I don’t have to live life stressed and pleasing people, and that I can do what I want with my life and it’s okay. Stopping the impossible people pleasing cycle and saying ‘you are exactly where you need to be’ and giving myself a lot of grace. I am a much stronger woman because of you.” Kate, photographer and mother of two elementary age children

“It’s not overkill to say: I would not be where I am today without you. You encouraged me not to settle for a job that I didn’t really want, and instead just do what I love! Freeing myself to just be an activist and trust in the universe was all your influence, and I am deeply grateful. You taught me how to hold some badass boundaries. People expect women to say ‘yes’ even when we want to say ‘no’, because we always have. Not on Patti’s watch!” Rachel, activist and mother of three teenagers



Buy my book Letters to Freedom: From Fear to Love to Grace on February 4, 2020 & get your FREE ticket to the Fear to Love to Grace Summit. Watch 16 inspiring interviews with best-selling authors and luminaries in the areas of love and loss.

A memoir of grief and relationship:
Letters to Freedom: From Fear, to Love, to Grace

“This memoir is unusually powerful. Even if you didn’t know Laurence, his journey will not only inspire you: it has the capacity to impel you, accelerating you on your path of unfoldment.” Dr. Roger Teal, author of This Life is Joy

“Patti shares her raw journey through love and grief in a way that only a true spiritual seeker can do. Her blend of psychology and spirituality makes this book a resource for anyone finding their way through loss and heartbreak.” Sue Frederick, author of Bridges to Heaven

“Her writing is beautiful, and the style is reminiscent of Jeanette Walls.” Dr. Marcy Cooper, MD.

“Patti Ashley offers tender, comforting and compassionate understanding of the deep life-changing grief that sometimes follows a deep life-changing loving relationship. And most important of all, she gives us reason to continue loving with our whole heart.” Sandra Felt, LCSW, and author of Beyond the Good-Girl Jail

“A love story that makes your heart sing while also feeling the insufferable pain of loss. Her honesty and courageous willingness to share raw, uncensored emotions while grieving has created this remarkable tribute to the human spirit.” Donna V. Remmert, author of The Littlest Big Kid, The Jitterbug Girl, & Head Over Heals

COMING IN 2020~~

Tuesday, February 4, 2020 (all day)
on-line and/or come to the office from 6-8 pm for an open house. Watch some of the videos, munch and mingle.

Friday, February 14, 2020 ~ 11:00 am to Noon MST ~ Lisa Campion’s Radio Show

Friday, February 14, 2020 ~ 5:00 – 6:00 pm MST ~ All Alone on Valentine’s Day
On-line grief webinar with Kim Murdock, author of the book Feeling Left Behind: Permission to Grieve

Saturday, February 22, 2020 ~ 1:00 – 4:00 pm MST ~ Letters to Freedom~Writing Retreat: Write stories and letters to loved ones you have lost.

Saturday, February 29, 2020, 10:00 am – 4:00 pm MST ~ Leap Year Mandala-Making: Creating your personal mandala—no experience necessary.

Saturday, March 21, 2020, 10:00 am – 4:00 pm MST ~ Embracing Paradox (co-facilitated with Billie Ortiz, Dream Expert) A workshop designed to help you embrace the push and pull of everyday life! Make your own paradox box and work with the archetypes from the Story of the Maiden King.

Sunday, May 3, 2020, 9:00 am MST ~ Moms in Real Life Sunday Brunch: Let’s talk about being a mom together–the joys and the challenges. Bring your favorite coffee cup and Sunday morning treat and we’ll share a little honest mom-to-mom conversation. On-line webinar (co-facilitated with Elizabeth Herman, school psychologist & my incredible daughter!!)

Friday, May 8, 2020 6:30 am- 9:30 pm & Saturday May 9, 2020 9:30 am- 4:30 pm MST The Niwot Inn, Niwot Colorado ~ Moms in Real Life Weekend Retreat: Get away for the weekend and stay at the lovely Niwot Inn, or commute Friday and Saturday for a rejuvenating and uplifting journey into what it is like to be a mom today. Meet other moms and share stories and learn about the 6 themes in my book Living in the Shadow of the Too-Good Mother Archetype.

May 16-23, 2020 ~ Retreat to Bali (co-facilitated with LMFT Christine Ruth) ~More info to come soon.

Saturday, June 20, 2020 9:00 am MST On-line webinar Fatherless Daughters Brunch ~ Let’s talk about being without a dad at any stage of your life. Bring you favorite coffee cup and Sunday morning treat and we’ll share a little honest conversation.

July 24-31, 2020 ~ A Sacred Journey in the South of France (Co-facilitated with Kelly Sullivan Walden & Elizabeth Herman)

More Information on Trainings and Events Page

Dr. Patti Ashley ~ Authenticity Architecture

Colorado and Company Interview

KGNU Interview, October 7, 2019

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