If you are feeling anxiousstressed, overwhelmed, depressed, hopeless, helpless, and/or sad it can be hard to reach out to anyone. I am so glad you made it to my website. I am here to help you find your joy again.

If you are grieving the loss of someone or something you love, I can help you navigate the painful task of grief. You can’t go around grief, you have to go through it. I can be an enlightened witness for you through the pain.

If you are a mother feeling overwhelmed with the multitude of tasks and responsibilities, I can help you learn how to better mother yourself and your child(ren).

After 35+ years of working with individuals, couples and families struggling with life’s challenges, I have created a unique psychotherapy approach called Authenticity Architecture, helping you thrive, not merely survive.



or call 720-565-3388 or e-mail pattiashley@icloud.com


“Thank you for showing me that I don’t have to live life stressed and pleasing people, and that I can do what I want with my life and it’s okay. Stopping the impossible people pleasing cycle and saying ‘you are exactly where you need to be’ and giving myself a lot of grace. I am a much stronger woman because of you.” Kate, photographer and mother of two elementary age children

“It’s not overkill to say: I would not be where I am today without you. You encouraged me not to settle for a job that I didn’t really want, and instead just do what I love! Freeing myself to just be an activist and trust in the universe was all your influence, and I am deeply grateful. You taught me how to hold some badass boundaries. People expect women to say ‘yes’ even when we want to say ‘no’, because we always have. Not on Patti’s watch!” Rachel, activist and mother of three teenagers


Buy my book Letters to Freedom: From Fear to Love to Grace before February 15, 2020 & get your FREE ticket to the Fear to Love to Grace Summit. Watch 16 inspiring interviews with best-selling authors and luminaries in the areas of love and loss.

A memoir of grief and relationship:
Letters to Freedom: From Fear, to Love, to Grace

“This memoir is unusually powerful. Even if you didn’t know Laurence, his journey will not only inspire you: it has the capacity to impel you, accelerating you on your path of unfoldment.” Dr. Roger Teal, author of This Life is Joy

“Patti shares her raw journey through love and grief in a way that only a true spiritual seeker can do. Her blend of psychology and spirituality makes this book a resource for anyone finding their way through loss and heartbreak.” Sue Frederick, author of Bridges to Heaven

“Her writing is beautiful, and the style is reminiscent of Jeanette Walls.” Dr. Marcy Cooper, MD.

“Patti Ashley offers tender, comforting and compassionate understanding of the deep life-changing grief that sometimes follows a deep life-changing loving relationship. And most important of all, she gives us reason to continue loving with our whole heart.” Sandra Felt, LCSW, and author of Beyond the Good-Girl Jail

“A love story that makes your heart sing while also feeling the insufferable pain of loss. Her honesty and courageous willingness to share raw, uncensored emotions while grieving has created this remarkable tribute to the human spirit.” Donna V. Remmert, author of The Littlest Big Kid, The Jitterbug Girl, & Head Over Heals


Upcoming Events:

Saturday, February 22, 2020 ~ 1:00 – 5:00 pm MST ~ Letters to Freedom~Writing Retreat: Write stories and letters to loved ones you have lost. REGISTER HERE

Saturday, February 29, 2020, 12:00 am – 6:00 pm MST ~ Leap Year Mandala-Making: Creating your personal mandala—no experience necessary. REGISTER HERE


Friday, March 6, 2020 6:00- 8:00 pm ~ Open House & Ribbon Cutting Join me and my suite mate Christine Ruth as we cut the ribbon to our new office in Niwot. Enjoy food, drink, conversation and videos from the Fear to Love to Grace Summit. 6800 North 79th Street, Suite 207 Niwot CO 80503

Saturday, March 21, 2020, 10:00 am – 4:00 pm MST ~ Embracing Paradox (co-facilitated with Billie Ortiz, Dream Expert) A workshop designed to help you embrace the push and pull of everyday life! Make your own paradox box and work with the archetypes from the Story of the Maiden King. REGISTER HERE

Sunday, May 3, 2020, 9:00 am MST ~ Moms in Real Life Sunday Brunch: Let’s talk about being a mom together–the joys and the challenges. Bring your favorite coffee cup and Sunday morning treat and we’ll share a little honest mom-to-mom conversation. On-line webinar (co-facilitated with Elizabeth Herman, school psychologist & my incredible daughter!!)

Friday, May 8, 2020 6:30 am- 9:30 pm & Saturday May 9, 2020 9:30 am- 4:30 pm MST The Niwot Inn, Niwot Colorado ~ Moms in Real Life Weekend Retreat: Get away for the weekend and stay at the lovely Niwot Inn, or commute Friday and Saturday for a rejuvenating and uplifting journey into what it is like to be a mom today. Meet other moms and share stories and learn about the 6 themes in my book Living in the Shadow of the Too-Good Mother Archetype.

Saturday, June 20, 2020 9:00 am MST On-line webinar Fatherless Daughters Brunch ~ Let’s talk about being without a dad at any stage of your life. Bring you favorite coffee cup and Sunday morning treat and we’ll share a little honest conversation.

July 24-31, 2020 ~ A Sacred Journey in the South of France (Co-facilitated with Kelly Sullivan Walden & Elizabeth Herman)

More Information on Trainings and Events Page

Dr. Patti Ashley ~ Authenticity Architecture

Colorado and Company Interview

Author Patti Ashley – February 14, 2020

KGNU Interview, October 7, 2019

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