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I know how hard this wild ride we call life can be sometimes, and I want to help you get through whatever struggles you might be having.
Maybe you are feeling anxious, stressed, overwhelmed, depressed, hopeless, helpless, and/or sad.
Maybe you are grieving the loss of someone or something you loved.
Maybe you are a mother who is feeling overwhelmed with the multitude of tasks and responsibilities.
Or maybe you are just feeling “stuck” and want to change your all-too familiar patterns.
Telling your stories to someone who really listens can help you transform lead into gold, and bring more clarity to your authentic self. Losing my father at a very young age and going through divorce/custody battles, moves, and many life changes/traumas, has given me big empathy. I would be honored to walk with you on your journey of healing and self-discovery.
After 40+ years of working with individuals, couples and families struggling with life’s challenges, I have created a unique psychotherapy/coaching method called Authenticity Architecture. Based on the neurobiology of trauma and shame, Authenticity Architecture helps you create long-term changes in the brain and nervous system in order to break-through and overcome unconscious barriers to self-love, belonging, and connection.
Schedule an on-line 50 minute Authenticity Architects session HERE
“Thank you for showing me that I don’t have to live life stressed and pleasing people, and that I can do what I want with my life and it’s okay. Stopping the impossible people pleasing cycle and saying ‘you are exactly where you need to be’ and giving myself a lot of grace. I am a much stronger woman because of you.” Kate, photographer and mother
“It’s not overkill to say: I would not be where I am today without you. You encouraged me not to settle for a job that I didn’t really want, and instead just do what I love! Freeing myself to just be an activist and trust in the universe was all your influence, and I am deeply grateful. You taught me how to hold some badass boundaries. People expect women to say ‘yes’ even when we want to say ‘no’, because we always have. Not on Patti’s watch!” Rachel, attorney and mother
Due to COVID19 and the safety of my clients, I am only working on-line or over the phone until further notice.
I was honored to be part of a global movement of new thought leaders discussing mental health and suicide prevention including Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Joan Borysenko and many others on May 9, 2020.
Register for one or more of my on-line courses:
We are all adjusting to current world events, and the many ways lives are being affected.
I have created some on-line courses with videos, powerpoint and worksheets that you can do it at your own pace. For more information or to register, check out all the Authenticity Architects learning page here.
Go In, Not Out: Finding Deeper Parts of Yourself in Challenging Times
Transforming Grief and Fear into Love and Grace.
Join my facebook group Dr. Patti Ashley where every Friday at 11:00 am MDT you can be part of the conversations on my Facebook page
Here are the incredible guests you will meet in September and October for the special series–Shameless Facebook Fridays:
My Books:
Shame-Informed Therapy: Treatment Strategies for Overcoming Core Shame and Reconstructing the Authentic Self
This workbook for mental health practitioners combines my 40 years of experience in child development and psychology. It includes on overview of the neurobiology of shame as well as many worksheets that help individuals reconstruct their authentic self, overcoming debilitating negative thoughts and feelings of not being good-enough. It can also be used by individuals who want to explore inner healing of shame-based messages and reconstruct eh authentic self.
“Dr. Patti Ashley strikes again…this time tackling one of the most important (if not THE most important) topics to shine light upon. In her breakthrough book, she’s created a turn-key approach for therapists to use with clients, using worksheets, stories, and depth of insight.” Kelly Sullivan Walden, Hypnotherapist and Best-Selling Author
Letters to Freedom: From Fear to Love to Grace
Losing the mid-life man of my dreams–Laurence Freedom–the same way I lost my father as a child inspired me to write this very personal memoir. I hope it helps anyone who has to endure the painful passage of losing a loved one.
“This memoir is unusually powerful. Even if you didn’t know Laurence, his journey will not only inspire you: it has the capacity to impel you, accelerating you on your path of unfoldment.” Dr. Roger Teal, Author of This Life is Joy
“Patti shares her raw journey through love and grief in a way that only a true spiritual seeker can do. Her blend of psychology and spirituality makes this book a resource for anyone finding their way through loss and heartbreak.” Sue Frederick, Author of Bridges to Heaven
Living in the Shadow of the Too-Good Mother Archetype
In my doctoral research I wanted to uncover why mothers so often feel they are falling short of expectations. A familiar story for me as well as thousands of other mothers I have met through the years. This book shines a light on what has been hidden in the shadows for way too long, dispelling the myths of being a perfect parent.
“As I read through your thoughtful and compassionate book, I think to myself how special it is that you are able to make the profoundly essential points that parenting is an ongoing process of discovery and acceptance of our true selves, balance, and mindfulness. What I also find remarkable is the deftness with which you connect historical, mythological, psychological, educational, and 
political contexts for LIVING in the Shadow of the TOO GOOD MOTHER. I look forward to recommending it to colleagues and friends alike.” Dale V. Atkins, PhD, Psychologist & Contributor to The Today Show and CNN
“Patti Ashley, a wise and thoughtful guide, reveals why martyred motherhood isn’t healthy for women or children and offers stories that illuminate where to go from here.” Mary Kay Blakely, Author of American Mom–Motherhood, Politics and Humble Pie
